Live longer and be happy every day with these simple steps

Helping others is not only good for them and a good thing to do, it also makes us happier and healthier too.

Giving also connects us to others, creating stronger communities and helping to build a happier society for everyone.

And it’s not all about money – we can also give our time, ideas and energy. So if you want to feel good, do good!

Experts have come up with a list of ten steps you can follow to boost your happiness, including being generous to others. The advice was produced by Vanessa King, author of 10 Keys To Happier Living and the campaign group Action For Happiness

Relationships are the most important overall contributor to happiness. People with strong and broad social relationships are happier, healthier and live longer.

Close relationships with family and friends provide love, meaning, support and increase our feelings of self worth.

Broader networks bring a sense of belonging. So taking action to strengthen our relationships and create new connections is essential for happiness.

Our body and our mind are connected. Being active makes us happier as well as being good for our physical health.

It instantly improves our mood and can even lift us out of a depression. We don’t all need to run marathons – there are simple things we can all do to be more active each day.

We can also boost our wellbeing by unplugging from technology, getting outside and making sure we get enough sleep!

Ever felt there must be more to life? Well good news, there is! And it’s right here in front of us. We just need to stop and take notice.

Learning to be more mindful and aware can do wonders for our well-being in all areas of life – like our walk to work, the way we eat or our relationships.

It helps us get in tune with our feelings and stops us dwelling on the past or worrying about the future – so we get more out of the day-to-day.

Being mindful means noticing things around you rather than thinking only about the past and the future

Learning affects our well-being in lots of positive ways. It exposes us to new ideas and helps us stay curious and engaged.

 It also gives us a sense of accomplishment and helps boost our self-confidence and resilience. There are many ways to learn new things – not just through formal qualifications.

We can share a skill with friends, join a club, learn to sing, play a new sport and so much more.

Taking part in hobbies provides a sense of accomplishment and helps boost our self-confidence and resilience

Feeling good about the future is important for our happiness. We all need goals to motivate us and these need to be challenging enough to excite us, but also achievable.

 If we try to attempt the impossible this brings unnecessary stress.

Choosing ambitious but realistic goals gives our lives direction and brings a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when we achieve them.

Having achievable aims in the future provides a sense of direction and provides satisfaction when we achieve them

All of us have times of stress, loss, failure or trauma in our lives. But how we respond to these has a big impact on our well-being.

We often cannot choose what happens to us, but we can choose our own attitude to what happens.

In practice it’s not always easy, but one of the most exciting findings from recent research is that resilience, like many other life skills, can be learned.

How we respond to stress, loss, failure or trauma in our lives has a major impact on our wellbeing

Positive emotions – like joy, gratitude, contentment, inspiration, and pride – are not just great at the time.

Recent research shows that regularly experiencing them creates an ‘upward spiral’, helping to build our resources.

So although we need to be realistic about life’s ups and downs, it helps to focus on the good aspects of any situation – the glass half full rather than the glass half empty.

It helps to focus on the good aspects of any situation – the glass half full rather than the glass half empty

No-one’s perfect. But so often we compare our insides to other people’s outsides. Dwelling on our flaws – what we’re not rather than what we’ve got – makes it much harder to be happy.

Learning to accept ourselves, warts and all, and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong, increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being. It also helps us accept others as they are.

Learning to accept ourselves, warts and all, and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong, increases our enjoyment of life

People who have meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of what they do.

They also experience less stress, anxiety and depression. But where do we find ‘meaning and purpose’? It might be our religious faith, being a parent or doing a job that makes a difference.

The answers vary for each of us but they all involve being connected to something bigger than ourselves.

 The ways in which we find meaning vary for each of us but they all involve being connected to something bigger than ourselves